I had no intention of getting married again. I had no intention of falling into love again. The previous memories and missteps were too painful….
Providence would intervene…has intervened for thirty-three years now…and still counting, I hope. I am sometimes amazed I asked for your hand and am even more amazed you said yes.
I had no intention of meeting my bride on top of a football stadium’s press box or again at Halloween with an inflatable pumpkin perched upon her head. I wasn’t looking…I was still recovering. But she refused to be ignored.
Fate will not be denied. Serendipity would intervene in the form of a hazel eyed, dark-haired sprite who would torment my thoughts, inappropriate thoughts because she was dating my roommate. Destiny would step in when they broke up.
I can’t comprehend her not being around, it’s as if she has been around forever. “Dear God, please take us together or take me first….”
I did fight it…the feeling REO Speedwagon sang about. A song that tormented me every time it played. I fought the feeling. Even after she and my roommate broke their ties. My loyalty is well defined and sometimes misplaced, and remember, I was never going to fall in love again. We danced around the issue…maybe…maybe I danced around the issue.
We found ourselves at school and athletic functions, enjoying each other’s company. She was a teacher and coach too. She laughed at my stupid jokes…not as much now as she once did…she has heard them all, thirty-three years worth.
I found her captivating, intoxicating and any other ‘ating’ one might think of except ‘dating.’ I couldn’t quite pull the trigger and ask her out…I wasn’t worthy…I’m still not. Finally, she tired of my tap dance and asked me out. I’m slow but I’m not stupid.
A chance to accompany her to a local dive bar to hear an old friend of hers sing the blues? Sure, why not? It quickly turned into something else. I’m the one who has been singing now for thirty-three years…but not the blues.
We go to family gatherings, get-togethers with friends, the occasional party…I would find myself close by…preferring to talk with her more than anyone else…close enough to touch and whisper in her ear. I’m not being snobbish; I would just rather talk to her. She has always been the most interesting person in the room.
We are more like leaves caught in a whirlwind…blown wherever our whims and chance send us. Serendipity again. She just doesn’t like to plan. Where is the fun in that?
I remember an early anniversary when we decided to drive to the coast the weekend after our June twenty-ninth wedding celebration. Our decision was an impulse masquerading as a great idea…a romantic idea. I’m sure it was her idea.
As we rolled the old VW Bug into Georgetown it dawned upon us the weekend after our wedding anniversary was the Fourth of July weekend. There were no rooms in the inn, and we weren’t Mary and Joseph. Once again happenstance saved us in the form of the Georgetown Chamber of Commerce. One bed and breakfast with a room was available and for a price anything is possible.
According to Otto von Bismarck, “A special Providence takes care of fools, drunkards, and the United States.” I don’t know about the drunks and the United States but for thirty-three years Providence has taken a liking to two fools in love…still in love.
Sometimes our safe harbor has been storm-tossed and I’m sure it will be again. But we have each other to hold on to as the waves come crashing in.
I wish I had met her sooner…had fallen in love with her sooner…but then we weren’t the people we would become…I wasn’t. I had to bleed first before she could apply her soothing anodyne.
Linda Gail, I love you and would do it all over again a thousand times. My heart breaks at the thought that I might sometime lose you.
To my best friend, my lover, my wife…Ashley’s other mother, Grandmommy Linda to MK and Noie and mother of my beautiful, blind puppies, I love you. I’m so glad you were crazy enough to say yes.
Call it serendipity, chance, a fluke, good luck, good fortune, fortuity, fortuitousness, happy coincidence, or a special alignment of the stars, you have made my life a wonder and wonderful. Here’s to thirty-three more.
Lyrics and video Can’t Fight This Feeling by REO Speedwagon.
I only wish I had the strength to let it show
I said there is no reason for my fear
‘Cause I feel so secure when we’re together
You give my life direction
You make everything so clear
I’m keeping you in sight
You’re a candle in the window
On a cold, dark winter’s night
And I’m getting closer than I ever thought I might”
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